Prune your life

Removing things from your life can give space for the things that are left, and make room for new and better things.

Habits, people, activities, things…

What do you need to prune?

Where your attention goes, energy flows.

What are you paying attention to today? 

It is likely you are paying attention to what you see and hear – and that you can do on purpose.

What you pay attention to you will find yourself thinking more about, and then you’ll find yourself taking action on it.

That’s how it works.  You’re in the driver’s seat of your life.

What are you going to put in front of your eyes and into your ears?

Be a producer, not a taker.

If you want to see why someone is failing, just follow them around all day and watch what they do.

What would someone see if they followed you around?

Are you taking value, or producing it?

How much are you producing? 

How can you produce more results that people value?

How can you produce results that people value MORE than the value you are producing now?

Are you likeable?

Are you strange?  Are you righteous and rigid in your opinions?  Are you angry?  Does your face say “go away” and do you not like many others?  Do you have quirks that only a few understand that make others uncomfortable?  Do you not take care of yourself?  Are you unconfident and unenthusiastic?  Are you unambitious and uninteresting? Are you afraid of too many things?

The more likable you are the greater the probability that you will be happier, healthier and have more friends and success.

Your likability matters (to you), and it IS something you can improve.

You will not be eaten.

Nervous about trying something new, or something old in a new way?  Worried about how the new project will turn out or about meeting some new people you think are key to your progress?

What’s the worst that can happen?

Just go for it.  You will learn something, even and especially if it doesn’t go really well.  That will eventually lead to something that does.

How to be unlikable

There are many ways you can be unlikable.

Be a humble braggart with false humility.

Throw temper tantrums.

Shut down and give the silent treatment.

Be dogmatic – being righteous and closed-minded.

Be all about yourself and never interested in others.

Don’t smile.  Glare, or dirty or suspicious looks instead.

Surely none of this fits our description.  Does it?

Fear is a requirement for courage.

“Fear is a requirement for courage.” – Eddie Rickenbacker

The people who develop courage and overcome fear are the most successful.

Facing fears and overcoming them develops confidence.

What fear can you overcome now to take you to a new level of confidence?

Psychological Billionaire

What you have and have going on outside of you is a manifestation of what you have going on inside of you.

Do you have it all together inside?  Are you clear about who you are, aren’t, and what you want to accomplish? Have you learned and practiced enough to gain a deep understanding?

Do you have your emotional world in order?  Do you want something you don’t have yet and have the self-discipline to go after it?

All success and achievement happens on the inside first. 

What do you need to achieve inside?

All of a sudden – the food changed…

Thousands of years went by.  Ok, it wasn’t easy but we adapted to eat whatever we had.

Then, suddenly, in less than 100 years, the food supply changed.  We have packaged foods, processed foods, and lots of sugar.

What did that do to you?

Mind your manners

There are some ideas that never go out of style.  The reason they never go out of style is because they are rooted in human psychology – yours and all the others around you.

By being polite you will stand out and be the exception in many places.  When you are consistently kind and polite people will notice and remember you.  

Good manners are appreciated by others because they feel respected.  It makes you likable and will give you a competitive edge.  This is an edge you don’t have to earn or be given – you just take it.

Be kind and polite.