There is no excitement inside your comfort zone

I knew a couple who seemed to do well, but they always said no to invitations.  They had their routine, and they didn’t want to get out of it.

“Do you want to come to the party?”  “Well, we’ll see what we have going on.”   

“Do you want to try riding this thing?  It’s easy.  My daughter is riding it, see?”  “No, no, that’s not my thing.”

“Do you want to shoot this bow, or play cornhole, or go camping with us?”  “No, I’m good.”

But there was something sad inside of them.  There was no spice in life, no excitement.

Habits make life easier.  Good habits will get good results that compound.  But don’t forget to break the routine.

They say that at the end of life, people regret the things they did NOT do more than the things they did.

When you have a weekend where you do something new and out of your box, isn’t that exciting?  Aren’t you talking about it for a long time?

A few years ago, we scheduled a day where my wife, Marie, and I would go skydiving.  We actually accepted an invitation to go with another couple.  Well, Marie was so nervous, she didn’t speak for a couple days beforehand.  We drove there, and she was silent with fear.

The place ascended.  She almost threw up.  When she landed, she yelled, “That was the greatest thing I’ve ever done!”

This is life, everyone!  This is our chance.  

All growth and a lot of excitement live outside your comfort zone.

Go get it!  Try new things!

Do you need to do well, or want to?

What is your primary driver, need or want?

Four differences between needers and wanters – 

1) Needing is extrinsically motivated, where wanting is internally motivated.

2) Needing is security driven.  Wanting is freedom driven.

3) Needing is scarcity minded.  Wanting is abundance minded.

4) Needing is reactive.  Wanting is creative.

What drives you?  Need?  Or want?

What would you do to kick your own ass?

If you were your competitor, knowing what you know about your company’s vulnerabilities, what would you do to kick your ass?

Fix that.  

Do that.

Treat people as good as you are

Don’t treat people as bad as they are.  They may live up to your assessment in dealing with you.

Treat people as good as you are.  (I am assuming you are damn good!)  They will elevate themselves when they are with you.

You can’t change other people

Some people think that they will be happy if they could just change a few other people to be more like they want them to be.

Maybe it’s their coworkers, their friends, their spouse or their kids.

They spend their life trying to make this happen.  But it is futile.

People don’t change.  And if they do, it won’t be because you wanted them to.

The only person you can change is yourself.  That is cool because it is in your direct control.  And by changing yourself, other people and situations will look very different.

Listen to this audio track from my Blueprint album – 

Blueprint – “Something Different”