Some games you can't win

“Some games in life, you only win if you don’t play.” – Gary Halbert

Are you playing any games now that you can not win?

Trust yourself and go for it.

“Can you be the best? Of course you can. Then why are you still questioning your ability to do it? Quick answer: because at some point, you made something simple into something complicated, and you stopped trusting yourself.”

Do you have faith in you?

Building Rapport

Rapport is trust plus comfort.

The intention you use you build rapport with others matters.  

Building rapport with good intentions for someone will help you interact with and influence them.

Control the controllables

Focusing on what you can NOT control only leads to frustration and powerlessness.

Focus on what you CAN control –

YOUR Attitude and YOUR effort.

You can go very far that way.

Build Your Confidence

There are a lot of qualities you will need to be someone who crushes goals routinely.

Confidence will determine a lot.  When you are confident you will try things, and others will gravitate to you in any situation.  You will get opportunities less confident people don’t.  And hey – confidence is sexy.  Probably because confident people smile more, and smiling is attractive.

How do you build confidence?  Preparation will build confidence.  

So will trying things, even if small at first.  Small wins give you the confidence to try something a little bigger.  That leads to more confidence.  Then you try even bigger seemingly more difficult things until they are easy for you, and your confidence grows.  With every achievement, no matter how small, your confidence grows, propelling you to reach even greater heights.

Eventually, you feel confident in almost any situation.

Reduce the Options

The options are limitless these days.  Your job is to reduce them down to ONE – and NOT the easiest thing either.

Choosing the easiest, most pleasurable thing is how we get in trouble – and how we get heart disease, diabetes, and overweight and how we wind up broke.  Still, most people take the easy options.

Fruit or cake?  Watch a screen or workout?  Get your heart rate up or relax?  Spend money or get better at making it?

Chose the right thing, the hard thing, the disciplined thing that will make tomorrow better.  Eliminate everything else, and go at it.  Do it first.  

You will feel good about it, and it will move you forward – and ahead.

Who is responsible for your life?

Who is responsible for your life?

Who will do what it takes to make you live a great, healthy, fulfilling life full of wonderful experiences – 

A)  Your parents

B)  Your friends

C)  Someone else

D)  You and you only.

So what does that mean for you today?

You can only be good playing it safe

You can be good playing it safe.  But you can’t be great.

Safe makes you good.  

Chances make you great.

Are you taking chances?  What chances?

Not all cool ideas work out

I try lots of things.  Lots of cool things – well I think they’d be cool.  Trips, events, products, purchases…all kinds of stuff that may be a bit out of the ordinary (or a lot).

My observation – some things are way cooler than I thought!  Some things are pretty cool.  Some things are a swing and a miss.  I wasted time and money trying to be different, but it turned out to be underwhelming and below my expectations.  

But I won’t stop trying!  And I have learned not to be so disappointed when it’s not great, because I know that trying gets me some great experiences with others, and great results in my life and business.

Have you found the same thing?

Is that a bad thing? We'll see….

The only survivor of a shipwreck woke up on a deserted island.  He walked the perimeter looking for ships to save him, but saw none.

Each day he scavenged for food and materials to build a shelter.  After several weeks he managed to put together a shelter from the sun and rain.  He kept a small fire in his camp to keep warm on cool nights.

One day he returned from scavenging to his hut and found it in flames.  The wind had blown an ember and caught it on fire.  He fell back in sadness, devastated by his loss.

Soon after he looked up to see a ship approaching the tiny island.  He was saved at last.

He asked the Captain, “What made you come here and find me?”

The Captain replied, “We saw the smoke from your fire”.

What is or has happened in your life that you first thought was bad but now is good?