Expand your group

Many of us have our fairly limited circle of friends and associates who we are either comfortable or familiar with, and stop there.  

Keep the door open.  It’s amazing what a few new people in your day can bring to your thinking and to your life.

Never take in the welcome mat.

Pick Something

What to do this weekend/ what career path to take/ what to spend your free time or day on/ if you should do this or that…..

If you procrastinate and don’t decide, you will regret it.  If you don’t know what to do, it’s better to pick something and go with it.

Trust your gut, make a decision, and off you go.

Sign Up!

Get involved.  Join a club, take a class, go to a seminar.  Be an active participant.

Be someone who’s been there, done that, knows how that is, and wants to do new things tomorrow.

Conviction

When two people meet, the one who is most convinced of their position will ultimately win over the one who is least convinced.  

Steve Jobs believed everything he said – so other people believed it too and jumped on the bandwagon.

Are you 100% convinced of what you are saying and are you able to persuade others?

Old beliefs die hard

Our beliefs do more to shape our lives than anything else. What we believe to be true…what we expect to happen…what we believe about ourselves.

To change our lives, we must change these beliefs. But the old ones fight to live; they don’t want to surrender and go away – they are “Beliefs” after all and must be true. But they are not true – they are just ideas we accepted long ago as permanent realities – and that was our mistake.  

Nothing is real unless we say it is real. Nothing is true unless we say it is true. Nothing is permanent unless we say it is permanent. We need to go back and question what we think is true – “Why do we believe that?”  “What happened?” “What decision did we make?” “Looking back, was it really a valid decision?”

Let’s soften these old beliefs by questioning them. Then, if we want to make a new decision, create a new belief that overrides the old one, and throw the old one out.  

With new beliefs about how we are and how the world is, we will think new thoughts and take new and different actions – and our world will change for us. 

Control what you can

In a world that has many agendas and throws all kinds of things at you, control what you can. What’s that?

1) What you focus on. You can choose to pay attention or ignore it, or choose to not even see it.

2) What it means to you. You can decide what is more important and what is less important to you.

3) What you do. It’s your time and free will.  

Create your own life – don’t feel it is being created for you.

Getting your butt kicked

While it’s not something we look forward to, or like while it’s happening, once in a while getting beat on can be a good thing to toughen us up.  I don’t mean from fighting, I mean from a big workout, strenuous work to make a goal, or some other physical or mental adversity.

If things are easy all the time, we become mental or physical cupcakes.

“Adversity introduces a man to himself.”  

Learn – to be happy

We are happy when we feel we are making progress and getting better.

When we do something we are not good at, we feel incompetent, and we don’t like doing it. After a day of doing something we don’t like doing, we aren’t happy.

What if we got training and learned to be competent and master those things we must do each day at our jobs or otherwise? If we learned to do it well, we’d feel competent, and like it more. We’d learn to be happy doing a thing because we felt good about ourselves when we did it.

What do you not like doing? What do you feel clumsy at? What do you feel you don’t know enough about and don’t do well that you have to do each day or from time to time?

Get some training, tutoring or go to a seminar or classes. Or read a book on it or go to YouTube to learn. Become competent, and you’ll be happier.

Goals – Every Day

What are your main objectives and goals?  Keep them in front of you every day.  If you forget about them for a few days, and don’t take any action that will bring you closer to achieving them, you have wasted those days relative to your top goals.

Write your goals on a card and tape it to your bathroom mirror, where you will see them every morning and every night.  When they are in front of you, your mind will go to work, and you will find yourself in goal achieving activities.

Work toward your main goals – every day.

"It's 90% mental"

Most top performers agree – success in anything is 90% mental.  

Shouldn’t we spend a LOT of time training our minds then?