You don’t want to be unpopular, because you have to work with people and get their cooperation to get things done.
At the same time, if we are liked and accepted by everyone, we probably aren’t making a difference and using our unique abilities.
We know that most people do not like change. And if you are the one causing it, even if it’s good change, you will ruffle someone’s feathers. If you are very talented and using that talent, someone will not like that you are showing them up. If you are stepping up, some will not like you because “who are you to do that – get back down here with us!”. If you want to make things better, you may have to call someone out, or leave them behind.
Of course, you don’t have to make it worse than it needs to be. A graceful style, listening, and humility can all soften reactions, while you are going forward.
Being your best and making a positive change can make you unpopular. Most heroes throughout history have experienced the same thing.
This is very reassuring to me. As a woman there is alot of pressure to be liked by everyone but it isn’t feasible if you are authentic.
I have been reading your daily wisdom for awhile. I enjoy most of them and am trying to learn from it daily. Having said that, I kind of disagree with what you are saying. Why do you think everyone needs to be a hero? We should all do what makes us happy and live our best lives. If it means doing work for others and lead a happy and content life so be it. Maybe you won’t agree but just my two cents.
Regards,
Raj
I always found that change was easier to accomplish by involving my team. They were mush more eager to implement change if they felt they were a part of the process, rather than just being handed down an edict saying, “This is how we are going to do things now”.