Our assessment of good or bad, successful or failure, fair or unfair; it all depends on our beliefs and expectations. If something doesn’t go well, ask yourself about why it bothers you, and why that is, and what part of the identity you made up for yourself it is at odds with. Then question that. Why? Is it true?
“Until we can understand the assumptions in which we are drenched, we cannot know ourselves.” – Adrienne Rich