I got these notes from Jordan Petersen.
When life hits you hard –
Accept it and don’t deny reality, don’t argue with what is.
Own it – don’t blame others; reclaim your power.
Decide who you want to be because of it – coming out of it.
Let go of what you cannot control. You cannot always control what is going on in the outside world, but you must control what is going on in your inside world – your thoughts, emotions, and attitude.
Stop wasting energy on what you can’t control – then you can reclaim that energy for moving forward.
Isolation is not a good strategy. It is a slow decent into despair. When you are at your lowest, your own mind is your enemy. It traps you into negative thoughts. Resist the urge to retreat into yourself. Reach out to people who will be helpful, not those who will validate your worst fear. A mentor.
Bring your thoughts out into the light where they can be examined and challenged. When you talk your thoughts out loud, they begin to shrink. Connection reminds you that you are not alone. Pain isolates. Healing happens in connection with others. Find your people and talk it out.
Reclaim your agency in the middle of the storm. When you go from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What can I do about it?”, you become the architect of the way forward.
More on this tomorrow….
Good thought for today,….. very timely,… thank you
I love this idea and mentality. I frequently remind myself of the “Serenity Prayer” that you mentioned recently and find that a number of things that would have driven the old me up the walls can be categorized under “things I can’t change” and therefor things I can no longer dwell on. Just like you said, I ask myself “What can I do about this NOW?”
Thank you for always hitting home with your messages, Larry!
I can’t agree with these words more. So many times we waste precious time and energy raging at what has already happened. We cannot change that. But, we can absolutely decide how we react to it. Own your reaction and you retain your power and strength.
This one hits home. When my business failed, I took what felt like a big hit financially and emotionally, it felt like falling into the abyss. I paid the dumb tax, and learned fast. You don’t know what you don’t know. By chance I got connected with someone years ahead of me and was quickly able to turn that failure into fuel. I started to see possibilities not limitations and now I’m back to building that brand in a big way. This message is another touch point; a reminder that success isn’t about never falling, it’s about how fast you get back up and turn adversity into advantage. Life is happening for us; not to us! Thanks for sharing this one