Yesterday we talked about how we determine if we like someone quickly. How do we do that?
#1 – We look at them. Everything about them sends a message. We can tell a lot about someone by how they dress and groom. We can tell what kind of background they have, what they value, how much they care about themselves, and much more. Will we be wrong sometimes? Yes, but we are right most times.
People have a choice as to how they present themselves to the world. They choose, and who are we to argue?
#2 – We listen to them. When people open their mouth and talk we can tell a lot about where they are from, how much respect they have, what their intentions are, how educated they are, and how friendly they are. The voice tells us a lot.
Am I right?
So this is what you can do to improve what others think of YOU. Know that everything about how you look sends a signal to others about who you are. If you want them to think differently about you, you can change how you are presenting yourself to them.
You can also change your voice. This is more difficult because it’s hard to pretend. Your voice is the window to your soul. But by taking care of yourself and getting your life together, being proud of yourself, having integrity, and getting clear on your intention to do good by yourself and others, your voice will change – and people will perceive it.
In the meantime, fake it if you have to. Be kind, positive, and helpful.
If people get positive first impressions about you, they treat you differently – in a way you will like; and it’s often a spiral up from there.
When people size you up quickly, what do they think about you?