Years have passed and we learned a lot of stuff through experience. We made some of it mean things about ourselves – “I can’t”, “we can’t”, “I’ll never be…”, “I’m just a…”.
But it’s never too late to learn new things and make new decisions about ourselves.
If you don’t like it, don’t accept it.
This post made me think about cleaning out all the drawers from a desk, all the old junk that got collected and piled up throughout the years from various people who sat there. Asking the cleaner if they need help or what do they think the best aproach would be is always helpful instead of screaching at them like a vengeful killer banshee for feeling left out or ignored or
Any other negative emotion that can cause someone to have negative feelings toward another person.
Please tell me how I can help you do a better more efficient job?
Can you please help me sort through all this junk in a constructive manner instead of destroying your eardrums, my heart or popping a vein in the process?
Ofcours I am using a touch of exageration but communication and teamwork is key in any endeavour.
My latest project is one where I feel an active participant because the team is awesome and I do not feel that I was left in the dark. I did have to adjust and acknowledge some errors in my thinking and expectations which may have brought down my team members enthusiasm at times but we all have flaws which we actively try to perfect.
Thanking the team for putting up with us on our bad days is always productive. All it takes is a simple, Thank You and a firm please do not give me a pass until I learn to do a good job.
Also, telling them, as sincerly as your soul dictates, that you think your team member is amazing and special, and how much you apreciate all the things they did to cheer you up and make things work, along with just genuinely being happy to have them in your team is important.
One more thing, if someone gets you and is able to make you laugh (I have an unusual sense of humor and I dont laugh much) tell them that you appreciate their being and ask them not to take your laughing as laughing at them, instead to take it as laughing because of them and with them.